Thursday, 30 August 2012

Reasons for seeing the best in children during tough stages in life

 I have written a lot about children in my blogs. This write-up is also focused on children but contains valuable information on seeing the best in children during tough stages in life.

Every single day in life is not the same. There are ups and downs in each individual’s life. We have to deal with these variations very carefully as we as group-ups are the mentors for our children. Children often look at their elders to see how they react under different situations and then copy their behavior. Hence; it is very important for elders to make a sort of decorum in their life even if they are going through a tough phase in their life. In this blog; I have enumerated various examples, which will help you understand the need for empathy and positive outlook in life.
But first of all let me start off with a famous quote of getting through tough times in your life.

According to Mary Manin Morrissey,

”Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?"

This is a great quote which highlights the theme of this blog. In order to move ahead we need to let go certain things and look at the positive side of every situation. Always believe that there is a silver lining around the corner that will keep you motivated and you will encourage your children to feel the same. They can also derive the confidence from you to deal with tough times with best possible attitude. This is a very huge thing which not only requires patience and guts but also enough confidence in you to remind yourself that:

Tough times don’t last long; but tough people do.

Now let me get back to our topic of discussion and enumerate different ways to see the best in children during tough stages in life:

  • Try to show empathy towards others: During tough times it is very difficult to think about others; leave alone the thought of helping others. But even a smallest of gesture can enlighten the day of another person. For example; you are under debts for the business you have done earlier and are lamenting over the need for doing business with that particular party. If a small child comes over and smiles at you; you should always smile back as that will make their day. It will also make you feel happy thereby doing something good for other without any pressure or commitment.
  • Read a good literature: When you are going through a difficult phase books are your best friends. The best thing is to escape from the realities of this world by reading a picture story book to your 4 year old toddler. This way you will forget about your worries.
  • Build self-reliance and confidence in children: When your child is in a spot of bother the very first thing that comes in our mind is how to help them resolve their concern. In future always remember that they will be on their own. Hence; always try to make them self-reliant and independent by dealing the problems their way but always tell them that you are there for them.
  • Learn something from the loss: When life becomes tough due to some of the careless decisions that we have taken the most probable thing is to understand the mechanics behind the loss. Even for small children who do not have logical thinkers, they also understand clearly about the things that led to the loss. It might even lead to an inexplicable discovery of facts.
  • Listen attentively: This is a challenging task when you are dealing with a crisis. I can understand this thing because I have had a personal experience where it becomes very difficult to listen attentively when you are thinking about something else while dealing with your day-to-day activities. In case of children, you need to overly patient because they will be playful and will speak a lot. So do not speak until and unless you have heard them attentively.

In the end I would like to conclude this blog by saying that children are the future of our next generation. They need to be tough enough to deal out with stressful situations in life. If you wish to elaborate further on this point; follow us at:,

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